Fighting in a Long Distance Relationship
It's sure to happen. Sometimes you can't do anything to help it. There is bound to be a few spats when two separate people come together. But it's perfectly normal. It can be hard to get over a fight in a long distance relationship, so I've laid out a few guidelines below to help you through the situation.
During The Argument
Think About What You Say Before You Say It
Often when 2 people get into an intense disagreement they totally lose control and they sometimes say things to each other that they wouldn't even dream of saying in a normal conversation. We understand you will be very mad at each other. And it could totally be their fault. And you may be totally be perfect too. But remember to choose your words thoughtfully. Be sure to take some long deep breaths and think it over before saying anything that could jeopardise the relationship. This will definitely assist in the making up process, and most important help to shield your companions feelings.
Don't Chat Too Much Until You Are Both Calm
It isn't going to do any good talking to your partner until you have calmed down. The best idea is to stop all conversations until your feelings are settled and you are ready to make up with each other. No Skype. No text messages. No phone calls.
The Making-Up Process
It's Not About Who's To Blame
It's not about who's to blame for the argument. It's about the cause of the disagreement. If you disagree about something that they don't really like about you, then maybe it's time to change that something they don't like. A lot of people have an, "I can't change for anybody" attitude in a relationship. Take it from us, the ones that can and do change are the ones that have a stronger relationship with one another.
Remember You Are Both On The Same Side
As you grow closer together, you have to learn to make decisions together. These choices will determine your future. You are both in the relationship because you love each other, and you both want the same positive final result. Just remember that you are each on the same team.
Send An Apology Letter
A nice touch after you have made up is to mail your companion a letter saying that you are sorry for hurting their feelings. Try to make your feelings about the argument known, but remember to let your lover know that you do not want to argue anymore. Possibly send a present along with it, or a photo that will help remind them of a joyful time you both spent together.
During The Argument
Think About What You Say Before You Say It
Often when 2 people get into an intense disagreement they totally lose control and they sometimes say things to each other that they wouldn't even dream of saying in a normal conversation. We understand you will be very mad at each other. And it could totally be their fault. And you may be totally be perfect too. But remember to choose your words thoughtfully. Be sure to take some long deep breaths and think it over before saying anything that could jeopardise the relationship. This will definitely assist in the making up process, and most important help to shield your companions feelings.
Don't Chat Too Much Until You Are Both Calm
It isn't going to do any good talking to your partner until you have calmed down. The best idea is to stop all conversations until your feelings are settled and you are ready to make up with each other. No Skype. No text messages. No phone calls.
The Making-Up Process
It's Not About Who's To Blame
It's not about who's to blame for the argument. It's about the cause of the disagreement. If you disagree about something that they don't really like about you, then maybe it's time to change that something they don't like. A lot of people have an, "I can't change for anybody" attitude in a relationship. Take it from us, the ones that can and do change are the ones that have a stronger relationship with one another.
Remember You Are Both On The Same Side
As you grow closer together, you have to learn to make decisions together. These choices will determine your future. You are both in the relationship because you love each other, and you both want the same positive final result. Just remember that you are each on the same team.
Send An Apology Letter
A nice touch after you have made up is to mail your companion a letter saying that you are sorry for hurting their feelings. Try to make your feelings about the argument known, but remember to let your lover know that you do not want to argue anymore. Possibly send a present along with it, or a photo that will help remind them of a joyful time you both spent together.
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